Learning to Change as Our Family Changes

Today’s post is a guest post from Angi from Schneider Peeps.  If you have never checked out her blog before, I highly recommend you give her blog a little blog love.  I love the “at home”  feeling I get when I visit her blog.

Just like the seasons change, our families have their own change of seasons.  Angi shares some great ways to adapt to the changes.

Changing Leafphoto credit

First, I’d like to thank Dianna for inviting me to guest post here at Practicing Frugal.  This blog is filled with such great information, what a treat!

I’m a creature of habit.  I have long used repetition to help me get through this crazy journey we call life.  The less I have to think about and the fewer decisions I have to make the better.

But sometimes, those habits that have served me so well for so long need to be
changed. Why? Because my family has changed and those habits have not changed with it.

For instance, my family has had homemade pizza and movie night on Friday nights for the last 20 years.  It’s such a loved tradition in our family that my teens will rarely go out with friends on Friday night and instead their friends regularly ask if they can join us.  Which I love!

Last year, our older daughter began dancing with the local Ballet Theatre and they have practice every.single.Friday.Night.  Last year we just put everything on hold until she was done which was about 9pm each Friday. Which is fine for the older kids but we also have a 4 year old.  Not so good for her.

I tried desperately to hold on to this tradition but something needed to change. We couldn’t just move it to Saturday night because the kitchen is super trashed the next morning (no one really wants to clean up after the movie – myself included) and we have group that meets at our home after church for Bible Study. Sunday night was out for much of the same reasons.

Then we realized that we were all home on Thursday nights.  No dance, no scouts, no work! So last week we began a new tradition – homemade pizza and movie night on Thursday nights.  It’s not ideal and it made us all feel kind of off on Thursday and Friday but it really is a better fit for our family during the dance season which runs from September through April.

If you find yourself struggling with things that didn’t used to be a struggle for you, here’s some questions to ask yourself?

~ Is this thing still important to me?  If it’s not, toss it out.  If it is, you’ll need to go on to the next question.

~What in my family has changed that is causing this to no longer work?  I have
friend who, through birth and adoption, went from 2 children to 5 in one year. Needless to say, quite a few of her systems had to change.

~ Is there a better way or time that I can do this same thing?  If the thing you’re
struggling with really is important for you to do, is there a better way or a different time you can do it.  For us, pizza night is really important but we needed figure out a way to make it work with our daughter’s new schedule.

~ Is there someone else who can be helping or doing this thing? Enlisting help is
something that we all need to be doing, especially as our family grows.  I used to wash, dry, fold and put away all of our laundry. At some point, I think about baby number 2, that no longer worked. So I had to make some changes and enlist some help.

I think it’s so easy to get stuck in the idea that I’ve made my schedule or household routine and that’s that.  And we continue to work a plan that, in all honesty, is no longer working.
It’s good to have a plan. But it’s also good to regularly re-evaluate that plan. And if things
aren’t working for you then change the plan.

I’d love to hear how you have changed your routines as your family has changed.

Angi Schneider is a minister’s wife and homeschooling mom to 5 children and 1
adult child.  She and her family have a small homestead where they garden, raise
chickens and bees and blog about their adventures at
Schneider Peeps.  Angi is also
the author of the new ebook series, The Busy Mom’s Guide, and the first ebook in that series, Taming The Laundry Monster. 

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